My OB-GYN sent me to a high-risk OB because of my age (I'm 37), migraines, and thyroid disease. I saw this new doctor today and also met with a genetic counselor. I found the genetic counseling horribly stressful, and I wished I'd known what I was in for because I would have asked Steven to take off work and come with me if I'd known. Partly, I didn't know the answers to questions about his family. His family is very complicated with lots of divorces and remarriages and half-siblings and people I've never met (like his bio-dad), yet I was supposed to know stuff about them.
But that wasn't the stressful part.
I was offered (pushed?) all sorts of genetic testing today, and I had to make a decision while there about what I would and would not let them do. I knew I would allow the testing for things like Cystic Fibrosis and Fragile X. Those simply establish genetic markers, which I think are important to know about regardless. But it was the sequential screening I was unsure about. For anyone who doesn't know, that test basically lets a woman know the odds of her baby being born with Down's Syndrome.
Thing is, if I did the testing and the odds were bad, I wouldn't allow them to do an amnio on me. There is a risk of miscarriage, and I don't care if it's merely slight. (Also, I'm terrified of needles, so a needle going into my uterus unnecessarily? No, thank you!) So what's the point of knowing the odds and potentially having to worry for the next 6 months?
Thankfully, they did an ultrasound first (everything looks good--baby has arms, legs, good cranial structure, obvious nasal bone), which gave me a decent amount of time to pray and decide what to do. Ultimately, I opted out of sequential screening. Thankfully, when I was able to talk to Steven after my appointment (because naturally, I forgot to put my cell phone in my purse and therefore couldn't discuss it with him during the appointment), he was in agreement with my choices.
Sometimes, I think certain advancements in science and technology aren't really all that helpful. More stress and worry with all the testing options today than women had in years past.
The one very positive thing that came out of this appointment, though, is that the doctor and the genetic counselor assured me that the baby should be fine with my taking Imitrex for my migraines. That alone was worth the stress I had to endure throughout my 2 hours there.